How to Stop Enabling an Addict

Most people like to help other people, but when it comes to addiction, sometimes help isn’t always appropriate. Here some ways you may inadvertently be enabling addictive behaviors and keeping a loved one from going down a path of recovery.

  • Lying: You might be calling in sick for your spouse when they have a bad hangover. You might also be lying to yourself about the addictive behaviors and saying that things aren’t that bad. It’s better to face the truth, and let the addict face the result of their own behaviors.
  • Making excuses for the addict’s behavior: Addicts are great at making excuses for their behavior. Don’t do the same. You might tell yourself or others that the addict is “going through a rough patch” or “had a difficult childhood” or has “x diagnosis.” Stop making excuses and see things as they really are – the addiction won’t go away on its own. The addict needs professional help to recover.
  • Sacrificing your own needs for the whims of the addict: Don’t expect an addict to understand or care about your own needs. Whether it is a basic need such as food, housing, or shelter, or other human needs such as trust, fidelity, affection, and honesty – be sure to make sure your needs are met before sacrificing yourself to addictive whims. And don’t forget to ask for help if you need it, so you can get the support you deserve.
  • Avoiding confrontation: It can be quite difficult to confront an addict about his or her addiction. They might be in denial or blame you. However, the more people that confront the addict about his or her addiction, the harder it is for the addict to avoid addressing the issue. Be brave, and remember that a confrontation is an act of caring.
  • Giving the addict money: It’s not uncommon for people to suffer bankruptcy, unpaid bills, low credit scores, and other financial disasters all because they gave money to addicts. Money does not help addicts recover. It only lets them keep going on their path of destruction. Save your money and your financial reputation. Give addicts what they really need – honesty, care, and accountability.
  • Becoming their personal manager: Addicts introduce a sense of personal chaos in the way they live their lives. It’s only natural for others to try to help by organizing and managing everything for the addict, who might seem quite helpless. However, if you start doing things for an individual that they should be able to do on their own, such as paying bills, making sure they arrive at work on time or eating good meals, you are keeping them from taking control of their own responsibilities. Let them handle basic “adulting” activities without your intervention.
  • Rescuing the addict from the problems they created: You might be embarrassed by the messes addicts create. You do everything you can to hide the evidence of a problem, from cleaning up liquor bottles from the front yard, washing their dirty clothes, or paying for their bail. Remember, embarrassment might be an uncomfortable feeling, but it won’t last forever. Let the addict face the consequences of their actions, rather than trying to hide their addictions. Addictions are a mental disorder, and it’s not your fault, so don’t try to hide it.

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Messages of Hope - Inspirational Quotes For Recovering Addicts in Ogden - Renaissance Ranch Ogden

Moving from active addiction to successful recovery is a tough process that requires maximum support from experts and family members. Recovering addicts often need proper inspiration to empower them during difficult moments and give them hope for the future. At Renaissance Ranch Ogden, we encourage positivity because it instills confidence in recovering addicts and helps them complete the recovery process.

In the modern world, we happily have a better understanding of how to treat addictions in various ways than we used to. Most people think of the more common ones: to keep addicts away from drugs, set achievable recovery goals, and give them proper advice and medication during the recovery process, but what recovering addicts really value is the amount of love and support you offer them.

At Renaissance Ranch Ogden, we offer outpatient treatment services to the addicts and restore lost hope to their relatives and friends. Our objective is to have a drug-free, family-friendly community. We offer comprehensive assessments, drug addiction recovery programs, and family-focused therapy to help family members and addicts walk the road to recovery together.

Inspirational quotes help because they offer a new way to look at the world. Below is a list of a few helpful inspirational quotes for recovering addicts that we have put together, but there are plenty more out there. We offer a little extra interpretation to help readers understand why we feel inspired and encouraged by these quotes and how they relate to the recovery process in particular.
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What is Spirituality?

When entering recovery, spirituality may not be the first thing many people thinks of. It is, however, a fundamental part of the process of overcoming addiction. Spirituality can be an important but sometimes confusing concept for individuals entering a recovery program. Spirituality is often confused with religiousness. Organized religions, by definition are “a set of beliefs…usually involving devotional and ritual observances, and often containing a moral code governing the conduct of human affairs.” Spirituality, on the other hand, is an individual’s search for something larger than themselves and a connection to the world around them. It is a desire to achieve a larger perspective about our lives and discover our true purpose. During recovery, patients need to reconnect with the spiritual aspects of their lives. Often, this is something that is lost during addiction. This loss also disconnects individuals from the people in their lives. The staff at Renaissance Ranch Ogden understand the importance of this aspect of recovery and help gently guide clients to rediscover this part of their being.

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We know that the abuse of drugs and alcohol are merely the symptom of a deeper problem that has to be treated like any other disease. Its not as simple as just not using anymore. We’ve tried that again and again with little or no results. The good news is that there is a solution, a treatment that will restore us whole again. We treat the disease of addiction with a multi-faceted approach that includes medical, psychological and spiritual components. We’d love to tell you more and help you discover the miracle of recovery. Our trained and certified staff have been there themselves. We’re looking forward to hearing from you! Call, email or come in today. Our contact information can be found at the bottom of the website. Let’s get started today!